Assertiveness - Cloze

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Nadia Geijo
Activity set by Nadia Geijo

First, do these activities: verbs and other. Listen to the MP3s from recording if necessary: MP3 slow (slow) or MP3 fast (fast). Fill in all the gaps with the missing words, then press "Check" to check your answers. Use the "Hint" button to get a free letter if an answer is giving you trouble. Click this button again for another letter. You can also click on "[?]" for a different hint. Note that you will lose points if you ask for hints or clues! Then, do the Cloze. Finally, do the Quiz.

Primero, haz las actividades de vocabulario. Luego escucha la grabación si es necesario. Rellena los espacios en blanco con las palabras que faltan. Haz click en "Check" para comprobar tus aciertos. Si te resulta difícil la respuesta utiliza el botón "Hint" y te revelará una letra de la casilla en la que te encuentres, puedes clickear varias veces en "Hint" y te dará cada vez una letra más de la palabra. Para obtener ayuda también puedes clickear en el botón "[?]" y te dará una pista. Perderás puntos con las pistas. Luego haz el Cloze y el Quiz.

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is a particular mode of communication. It is a form of behavior characterized by a declaration of a statement without need of proof; this affirms the person's rights or point of view without either aggressively threatening the rights of another or submissively permitting another to ignore or one's point of view.
During the second half of the 20th century, assertiveness was a behavioral taught by many personal development experts and therapists. Assertiveness is often linked to .

The goals of assertiveness training include:
• awareness of personal rights
• differentiation between non-assertiveness and assertiveness
• learning both verbal and non-verbal skills.
As a communication style and strategy, assertiveness is distinguished from both aggression and passivity. How people deal with personal helps to distinguish between these concepts. Passive communicators do not defend their own personal boundaries and aggressive people to manipulate them through .
Passive communicators are also typically not likely to trying to influence anyone else. Aggressive people do not respect the personal boundaries of others and thus can others while trying to influence them.
A person communicates assertively by fear of speaking his or her mind or trying to influence others, but doing so in a way that respects the personal boundaries of others. Assertive people are also willing to defend themselves against aggressive people.

Assertive communication an interest in the fulfillment of needs and through cooperation.
In contrast, "aggressive communication" judges, , lies and breaks others' boundaries.
At the opposite end is "passive communication". Victims may permit others to violate their boundaries. At a later time, they may come back and attack with a sense of indignation.
Assertive communication attempts to these extremes by appealing to the shared interest; it "focuses on the issue, not the person". Aggressive and/or passive communication, on the other hand, may mark a relationship's end, and reduce self-respect
Assertive people to have the following characteristics:
  1 They feel free to express their feelings, thoughts, and desires.
  2 They are “able to initiate and maintain comfortable relationships with other people"
  3 They know their rights.
  4 They have control over their . This does not mean that they repress this feeling; it means that they control anger and talk about it in a reasoning manner.
  5 "Assertive people are to compromise with others, rather than always wanting their own way and tend to have good self-esteem".

Techniques of assertiveness can vary widely. Manuel Smith, in his 1975 book "When I Say No, I Feel ," offered some of the following behaviors:

Broken record
The "broken record" technique consists of simply repeating your requests or your every time you are met with resistance. "As with a broken record, the key to this approach is repetition when your partner will not take no for an answer."

Fogging consists of finding some limited truth to agree with in what an antagonist is saying. More specifically, one can agree in part or agree in .

Negative inquiry
Negative inquiry consists of requesting , more specific criticism.

Negative assertion
Negative assertion is agreement with criticism without up demand.

I-statements can be used to voice one's feelings and wishes from a personal position without expressing a judgment about the other person.

Several research studies have identified assertiveness training as a useful for feeling happier and more satisfied. Psychological skills in general including assertiveness and social skills have been as intervention for a variety of disorders.
From a perspective, sensitivity has been associated with female social behavior while assertiveness has been linked to men’s behavior. Some experts argue that men and women could both benefit from learning to use the other’s style. So, women would benefit from assertiveness training just as men might benefit from training.